Have you ever met a woman while you where out of town spent a couple of days together had a great time, then decided that she was someone with whom you had to keep in touch with because the chemistry you two had was like no other?

So you exchange contact information and then flew back home and she went back to her home some 3000 miles away from you.

You get home and a couple of days later give her a call and discover that the chemistry you had when you where together is not nearly as strong as what you feeling on the phone.

Perhaps after a couple of weeks of talking on the phone you decide to fly up and see her and again the connection seems to just be getting stronger and stronger.

Overcome by emotions and joy you decide that you no longer want to see anybody else and ask her if she feels the same. She agrees and now you have become a long distance couple.

Congratulations! You have just completely destroyed your long distance fling and now get to enjoy the misery of a long distance relationship until the stench of the dead fling becomes too unbearable.

What you had first experienced in the fling was great and if you had left it at that you would've been able to enjoy perhaps years of this occasional fling. A long distance fling works for two reasons:

1. There is no commitment

2. No Expectations

If you both happen to have some free time or you are in town you meet up have a great time and afterwards go your own separate ways. The phone calls start to become less and less even though every time you call or meet you pick up right where you left off.

Now what happens when you turn a fling into the long distance relationship is:

1. It becomes a commitment

2. Expectations become great

Before you would meet her when you meet her, now you have to meet because we all know as a man you can only go so long without sex. Also before when you went out you might not have the urge to sleep with someone else and you still would have fun.

Now in the long distance relationship you have to be careful when you go out because you might get the urge and you have less fun when going out if you even do go out.

As a fling there was no power struggle as to who was going to move to be with the other, yet once in a relationship his power struggle will begin because you both know that long distance relationships cant last forever.

In a nutshell when you meet the woman of your dreams three thousand miles away simply except it for what it is a fling and if she happens to move closer or your job relocates you closer to her hen you can begin to explore relationships options.

Trying a long distance relationship with someone you just met is a waste of your time, and in the long run all that is going to happen is you missed out on all the other women who lived closer to you and potentially could have made you forget about her.