| Author: Stephen Nash |
It is bound to happen gentlemen. That one word we all do not want to hear'.
If you decide to take charge of your life, and get your dating challenges handled, guess what? You are bound to make mistakes. You are also bound to hear the most dreaded word that could ever emit from the beautiful lips of a woman: 'No'.
It would be impossible to outline a to-do list for each and every time she might say 'no' to you, OK? But, there is one basic rule for dealing with this objection and it is very important to abide by this rule.
Want to know what it is?
Well, when she says no to you, you better agree with her.
If you are about to kiss her, don't.
If you are about to touch her, don't.
If you are about to do anything intimate, and she says no, don't do it. Period.
Now, you might be thinkingbut, is that it? It's a closed door forever? I am NEVER to go for 'it'?
Not exactly. Yes, she is uttering the word 'no' to you, but what she is really saying is 'not yet' or 'I am not comfortable with you yet'. Women are all different and have different time schedules for everything. One woman may want to kiss you from the moment she sees you, while another may not want to feel your lips on hers until the second date.
What you have to do is to trust your intuition, and go with it. That is your best source of information.
If she says 'no', agree with her, and back up a bitgive her some space and show her that you are sensitive to her comfort level. She probably needs more time with you, to learn more about you so she feels more connected and trusting.
So, backup a bit, convey your personality a bit more, convey some stories about your life, lighten the mood with your sense of humor'and the next time you try to kiss her, she is more likely to be open to it.
For example'.
A number of months ago, I was out with a woman and we were watching some fireworks by the Hudson River. The moment was intimate and romanticprimetime for a kiss, or so I thought. When I moved to kiss her, she moved her head back and giggled a bit. Instead of getting flustered or angry, I just smiled, stroked her hair and whispered 'OK'. I then kept the mood gentle and romantic by changing the subject slightly and told a story about watching fireworks when I was a kid.
When it was time to leave, I took her by the hand and led her back to the car. Instead of waiting until the end of the date for the kiss, I paused underneath an old lamp to admire the view of the river one last time. I pulled her into me, and this time, she was ready. We shared a nice kiss, and then soon left to go home.
She told me later that the way I handled her 'rejection' caused her to feel more attracted and comfortable with me. Thus, I was able to kiss her with no resistance on my second try.
To summarize, if she says 'no', don't get discouraged, down or angry. Just take it as information about how comfortable she is feeling with you. Keep a positive frame of mind, and keep having fun with her. You can use this moment as a way to show her that you are someone she can trust, and that you can handle a challenge without loosing your cool.
Ultimately, if she continues saying 'no', guess what? She is probably not interested, or not attracted to you. Probably best to cut your losses then and move on.
Last but not least'no' means 'no'it does not mean 'if', 'and' or 'but' and certainly not 'yes'. So, respect her wishes and comply. |
Author Bio:
Stephen Nash
Cutting Edge Image Consulting
www.howtogetagirlfriend.blogspot.com
www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com
www.datingsecretsformen.com
Stephen Nash of Cutting Edge Image Consulting (CEIC) is author of the book How to Get A Girlfriend: The Seven Essential Skills for Attracting the Woman of Your Dreams and Natural Attraction, 7 CD Audio course on image enhancement and dating for men. Learn how to become a man that's magnetically attractive to women of exceptional quality and how to build positive and healthy relationships through charisma and self-image enhancement. |
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