Can you define, without hesitation, the values you live by? Are you aware of your partners values? Do they match? Another step on The Journey from I-TO-WE involves our attitudes and beliefs about what is important to us -- values. Being consciously aware of values --- for each of you and for the relationship -- gives you a frame in which to work, goals to work toward, and a sense of togetherness. This assessment will help you see how much you value your values.

This free set of assessments offers you the chance to find powerful answers. If you are willing to take the time to reflect on these questions, discuss them, and be honest with yourselves and each other, it can help you on your journey to Co-Create a Conscious Relationship so you can be

The adventure of life gives us the incredible opportunity to learn and grow as individuals. I like to say that we do not stop learning, stretching, growing, maturing, and changing until we are 6 feet under. What happens so often is we go through life unaware that we dont know what we dont know. In this fast-paced world, many of us do not have or take the time to sit, take a deep breath, and really think about the statements addressed in these assessments. We usually do not reflect on and consider the impact the answers to these statements can have on our relationship. We must gain the awareness, learn the techniques, and practice the skills to Co-Create a Conscious Relationship.

Take your time to think about each statement and be honest. One partner should use a black pen and the other partner a red pen. Rate your degree of agreement for each statement on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being a definite yes and 1 being a definite no. Write your score on the first line to the left of each statement. The second line is for your partners score.

You may find it difficult to give certain statements a low score. You may worry that your response will hurt or offend your partner or create conflict. Honesty, however, is critical for the success of the Co-Create a Conscious Relationship program. Also, no matter what score your partner writes down, be supportive; do not get defensive, resentful, or angry. Thank him or her for being courageous and honest. All of the topics in this assessment series are covered in detail, with exercises, in my book The Journey from I-TO-WE.

Conscious Values

_____ _____ - 1 - We have identified and defined our individual Learned Values.

_____ _____ - 2 - We have identified and defined our individual Core Values.

_____ _____ - 3 - We respect each others individual values.

_____ _____ - 4 - We understand how our values shape our beliefs.

_____ _____ - 5 - We understand how following our values will affect our lives.

_____ _____ - 6 - We have chosen new positive values.

_____ _____ - 7 - We have a set of shared values about how we will love and honor each other.

_____ _____ - 8 - We have a set of shared values about our family.

_____ _____ - 9 - We have a set of shared values about our future.

_____ _____ - 10 - We live our lives with purpose and in peace by honoring our values.

_____ _____ - Total Score

You have 10 statements for a total possible score of 100. If your total is:

80 or higher -- You scored in the upper percentile Congratulations! You have obviously taken the time to work, ensuring your relationship has the best chance to be successful. Though your relationship is strong, it can only benefit from gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. Good luck in Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship!

60 79 -- You scored in the average range Congratulations! Re-read the statements you scored low on and take the time to learn how to raise your score. Consider Co-Creating a Conscious Relationshipthrough gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. You and the relationship will be much stronger on The Journey from I-TO-WE.

0 59 -- You scored in the lower range Congratulations! You now know where you need to take the time to closely examine these areas of your relationship. It would benefit both of you to think about these statements, and work toward Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship through gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. Commit to each other to give unselfishly and unconditionally to do whatever you need to do to make each other feel safe, loved and cared for